Flying from the Nest

“The traveler sees what she sees. The tourist sees what she has come to see.”

(G.K. Chesterson)  

The past 2 weeks have been a lot better for me. The house, the group, and Kalimati itself is finally starting to feel like home. I was really concerned at first because everyone else seemed to adjust after the first week, but I really should not be surprised that it took me longer (I usually do things at my own pace). My room is decorated with pictures, quotes (that I wrote on paper and hung up), scarves and jackets (the only place to put them is on the poles the curtains hang on!). It is colorful and looks like me. The house looked lived in and comfortable and it is amazing to be able to go down stairs and visit the day care. I have also really come to love Kalimati. Yes, it’s dirty and noisy but as anyone who loves the city knows that despite these things there is always a special magic to any city if you know where to look.

My work is finally starting to get serious! I have 2 youth groups (HCC (Happy Child Club) and SAY (Struggle Active Youth)) and then guide meetings (2 different kinds). I also have day care meetings (staff meetings, parents meetings, and home visits). I also help watch kids during the women’s groups (so the Mothers get a break). For HCC and SAY I help plan their activities with S, At, and the guides. We make sure each meeting has a specific purpose and help them stay on track of the action plan (what they are supposed to accomplish during the machzor). Then I go to the activities to help and observe. The kids are AMAZING! The first HCC activity did not go well but we worked hard on the second meeting and it was so much better! The SAY kids are my favorite. I also see them more because I see the guides during the week. There are about 12 kids who come regularly to SAY activities, 6 of them are guides (2 for each youth group: HCC, SCC, and Indreni), and 3 of them are guide of the guides (more experienced) one for each group. Therefore, we have meetings with just the guides of the guides, and others with all of them, A bit confusing but a very good concept.

Daycare is a lot of fun! The kids know me now and want to play and jump all over me! They are super cute but it’s hard to tell who is a boy and who is a girl (boys where girls clothes and vise versa). N and I have staff meetings every week, which are a great way to spend time with the staff and very educational for me (i.e. last week we went over the 9 different intelligences: linguistic, logical, interpersonal, intrapersonal, musical, nature, visual, kinesthetic, and spiritual. We discussed each one and the importance of finding out how each child learns best). We also had a meeting when the mothers of the children from the daycare came. We played a game to get to know each other and my partner ended up being the women from the vegetable market! She was so happy! We walked (her English is very good) and laughed and she invited me to her home for dinner…it made my day! At the meeting we talked about the psychology behind thumb sucking and nail biting and how to get kids to stop. Finally, N and I also do home visits for the kids in the day care to see what their home life is like. Let’s just say it was a big eye opener to see how people live in Kalimati. Finally, I have to talk about circle time! Every morning in day care there is circle time where the kids sing songs, dance, and do other activities. It is the cutest thing I have ever seen! They meditate and take attendance and in all honesty I have seen an improvement in just 2 weeks. It is a wonderful place to be.

A short story for anyone who is coming to Nepal and wants a sim card: t is a pain in the ass. I ended up having to go to the phone store 4 times. Time 1: S and I went and made sure to bring our passports (or copy). They don’t want the actual passport; they want a copy of the picture and visa. Ok can they copy it? Yes…but not now the power is put until 1:00. Time 2: I come back at 2:30. The power doesn’t come back on until 3:00. Time 3: S and I go back around 6. We get copies of all necessary things and are given sim cards! We go home, put them in and they don’t work. Time 4: back to the store…apparently they take about a half hour to activate. We go home. Finally they work. Moral: if you want a sim card in Nepal, bring a copy of your passport photo and visa, then wait anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour for sim to activate.

For our first weekend Mahadev-Besi came and visited! I was SO happy! We met them in Thamel and had a great meal at a restaurant came NFC. After we went to the Irish bar and I ened up sleeping in the Big House. We pushed 3 beds together and I slept with O, GB, and Al! We talked and laughed and had an amazing night! We hung out the next day and that night everyone met up at the Himalaya Café for dinner. Then we went back to Swayambhu and hung out and I slept there again. It was a very good weekend!

The next week started out with our work seminar. In the morning we talked about Kalimati in general and giving constructive feedback. In the afternoon each group (women, education, and youth) met with M and B to talk about our action plans for each group. Youth was last so I had a very enjoyable afternoon playing outside with the daycare kids! It was late when we finished but it felt good to talk about all of our plans and ideas for the machzor. The next night we went to the movies! We saw “Life of Pi” which was interesting for me personally because I had just finished the book. We took a microbus to the mall, got popcorn, and had a regular western night. The movie was pretty good but it surprised me when there was an intermission. Apparently they do that in Israel too. It was also nice that all of us went together.

Only two other things of note took place last week. The first was a frustrating event at the Kuleshwore School (where the Nature club and Indreni club meet). S and I decided to clean out one of the classrooms to use for those groups. It was a mess and we worked really hard. It felt awesome to do something and see immediate results (even though its not sustainable). We had plans to come back the nest day and finish cleaning and then to start decorating. We came back the next day very excited but then saw that there was trash on the floor and more desks in the room. We were really frustrated. If they didn’t want to use the room, they should have just told us. Plus, I felt that it was really rude to make a mess when they saw how hard we worked. Oh well, it’s their room and they can do with it whatever they like. The second event is much better. We got to go to a wedding! One of the Nepali staff (B) got married and invited us to the party (Mahadev-Besi came as well)! It wasn’t the best thing I ever went to but it was really awesome to experience a wedding of a totally and completely different culture. We ate, talked, and danced and had a good time! The next night I went to Shabbat in Swayambhu with Mahadev-besi and a group of Australians! Apparently one year there was an Aussie volunteer for TBT’s short program so she organized an Aussie trip. They were so nice and fun to be around. We all got along and cooked in the afternoon. We had a really fun dinner, they had us play games that I didn’t find annoying or stupid and I really loved that night!

Hanukkah has started! I made it my mission to buy everyone a present! I spent a day in Thamel buying things (which put me in a most excellent mood)! And then continued the next day as well. I bought headbands, cups, jewelry, candy, and a few other little things. I succeeded in buying 20 gifts and gave to everyone I live with already! I am excited to give everyone else their presents! I don’t know what it is and I know it sounds incredibly cheesy but I really and truly love giving things to people. It makes me happy to see others smile, especially when I see something I know they will like.

Finally, S and I had an adventure the other day. We took microbus number one and went to the mall (which we left after 30 minutes, it was so western and weird we felt dizzy) and then microbus number 2 to Bouddhanath (a big stuppa). It was so beautiful!  We got lunch and dessert and tea. We sat and ate and read and talked. Then we walked around, looked in completely overpriced stores and enjoyed ourselves very much. Then we headed back. After we got off the first microbus we made a wrong turn trying to find the second. We ended up in a little bazaar/market place. We decided to wander for a bit and ended up finding an amazing store full of beautiful cups/mugs. I bought a few for Hanukkah gifts and S bought some for herself. We were just so delighted with how pretty everything was! After I dragged S away we found a store with dresses! I bought a really pretty one and we stayed and talked with the owners for a while. This proves my best travellers knowledge: the less you try, the more magic you find. We had a good day that ended with a great night!

Today we are going to the Big House in Swaymbhu for the seminar! Everyone will be there are I am SO excited to see everyone from Sundrawatti (I am excited to see Mahadev-Besi as well but I just saw them 3 days ago)! We will be there from tonight (Wednesday) until Monday morning. I hope it will be fun and not overly intense. I can’t believe it’s half over. Time went so slowly in the beginning and now it has decided to speed up. I am glad I have realized this so I can be sure to make the most of every day (even the bad ones). As for now, I am happy with where I am mentally and am ready to continue this journey.

Signed,

No More Training Wheels